Part 3:
Ms: Plaza: 1 child
"learn on their own and not to be constantly corrected." (child puts up a resistance.)
"The hardest part was the birth process." (cold environment of hospital pretty natural.)
Josh Marks: 1 child
"natural equals healthier."
"to many variables to count for" (for the kid to have the most humble experience)
"create sense of empathy"
Mother: 3 children
"i do not agree with the way grandparents raised their kids since it is too strict, but they gradually changed"
"i never thought of this, since i took medication, i couldn't breast feed, or the baby would eat my medicine."
"i didn't get much advice before giving birth, but i read some books"
"i wouldn't try to forcefully change someone's way of raising their kids but i would give them suggestions"
Wells looking at three different parents they all have their own way of parenting and no way is 100% correct, each parent was raise in a certain way that they would learn and come up with an adapt way of raising their kids. When parents are faced with different scenario's and cannot always focus on one kid since they are all different individuals and cannot be taught as equals in this world. As my mother had three children and never really though of something till i brought it up when asking her.
Josh's point about natural equals healthier i would agree and is what most parents want but it doesn't always happen that way. As times change the parenting styles change with it as each child is raised differently. Even though josh and ms plaza tried to breast feed their child my mother didn't because of her own reasons. this is an important part that formula milk is good for the child if something is wrong with the mother and they are unable to do this the natural way.
Most of these parents adapt the way of teaching through family and books and non of these type to raise their children came from them selves or their own ideals.
Part 4:
Through my insights through this mini unit i have seen many ways of parenting and even though the movie babies, but the cruel fact remains that there are many ways to raise a child, but every way is correct and wrong in their own sense. In this world we can never have one true way of raising a child from beginning to send, since related to the movies babies all the babies grew up in different environments and had different variables affecting them, but they all passed through the similar stages at different times, but pass through non the less.
All the children in this world are individuals and like the beginning of the unit when we found out that there were so many different small relationships we never thought about in this world it amazed us, and this is also like parenting since there are so many different types of relationships one can set with their child. Even though they would all want their child to call them mother or father, they still try to establish a balance of power and restriction for the child to grow. Even though my mother never tried to hit her kids when they did something wrong she still set a discipline structure of a "time-out". Ms. Plaza tried to have her child learn and grow, even though she added restrictions for her child. I in my personal blog would try and allow my child to try as many think as he/she can since i believe it is healthy for the child not to be confine to any limits but my way of thinking would eventually change and it will be affected by so many different variable to count for like the perfect way to raise a child. Said my Josh. In this world there is no right way and no wrong way and my analysis the little information we accumulated over the past weeks i have found out that one you decide something that is the right to you at the moment and things can change, so be open minded. Even though i believe this is right people may not believe or always follow it.
Friday, June 4, 2010
XC: You the man
In the performance it showed that relationships and peer pressure leads to the allow and support of domestic violence. In the play it was all about kids uneducated about the topic and asking for advice to know what to do to avoid that road, indirectly. When both parties are not agreeing with each other then it will lead to domestic violence said by the play.
there are many different problems with relationships and how they don't connect with each other, and how both sides don't always agree with what the other side wants are is doing. This will lead to rape, abuse or other kinds of domestic violence. It seems like the emotions are the one which take control of the body and the sides don't come to a mural agreement. When there isn't fear of the opposite side than this would lead to a mural agreement but things can still stray off course.
There are some common steps that one can take to help prevent domestic violence, like
1. Getting to know your spouse better
2. Both sides can always say no when one disagree with the other
3. Take out the situation with out the use of physical and mental violence
But i feel like these steps don't always work and might not be in the right order since there is so much to learn in relationships and all humans think differently when dealing with the other party, we all have different ideals and cannot always agree with the other side. Relationships are very complicated and can never really be solved in 1-3 steps one always have to think things through and try not to let emotions control their view on things.
This experience and performance was valuable and insightful of some reality of how humans interact with each other especially spouses. In the future i always plan on thinking things through and try having a mural agreement with "my other half." Learning about abuse and domestic violence is good to know about the future and i would like to know some more, but this topic can never be solved and is some times a lost cause since in this world humans don't always understand each other and thing are more complected than they seem. Even though i will remember this now there is no guarantee that i would use what i learned and what i say in the future.
there are many different problems with relationships and how they don't connect with each other, and how both sides don't always agree with what the other side wants are is doing. This will lead to rape, abuse or other kinds of domestic violence. It seems like the emotions are the one which take control of the body and the sides don't come to a mural agreement. When there isn't fear of the opposite side than this would lead to a mural agreement but things can still stray off course.
There are some common steps that one can take to help prevent domestic violence, like
1. Getting to know your spouse better
2. Both sides can always say no when one disagree with the other
3. Take out the situation with out the use of physical and mental violence
But i feel like these steps don't always work and might not be in the right order since there is so much to learn in relationships and all humans think differently when dealing with the other party, we all have different ideals and cannot always agree with the other side. Relationships are very complicated and can never really be solved in 1-3 steps one always have to think things through and try not to let emotions control their view on things.
This experience and performance was valuable and insightful of some reality of how humans interact with each other especially spouses. In the future i always plan on thinking things through and try having a mural agreement with "my other half." Learning about abuse and domestic violence is good to know about the future and i would like to know some more, but this topic can never be solved and is some times a lost cause since in this world humans don't always understand each other and thing are more complected than they seem. Even though i will remember this now there is no guarantee that i would use what i learned and what i say in the future.
XC: Babies
1. Did one culture, shown in the film, have a better way of parenting than the others?
No culture in this film showed that there is a better way of parenting than the other, since even though all the kids grew up differently they all still followed the same basic steps. Even though the children from Mongolia was raised in the wild unlike the child in Japan who was raised in a urban environment. All the children were brought into this world by their cultures rituals like hospitals or natural birth. The babies are than raised like a good child all innocent in the culture and is feed and nurtured by the parents culture and the surrounding people. The babies were interacting with society and as they grew up they experienced different things, some were formula feed and some were breast feed. Buy at the end the babies grew up to be one with their culture and society and learned how to stand and walk toward the same future.
2. How did each family prepare the child to take its "place" in their society? Did communication, cuddling, supervision, discipline line up to "mold" the kid for that society? Or do you think that a kid from one society would have been able to transfer successfully/easily at age 1 to one of the others?
Each family raised their child different, in Mongolia the children were raised with their siblings the most and was feed bathed by their mothers only, in the entire movie i didn't see a single adult male, and it was questionable of how modernized they were since they had tools from the modern world but still lived in the style as hunter gathers. the new babies often follow how their siblings behave but they also had to be guided by their parents. For example when the baby was drinking water he followed what his siblings did but when he was drinking milk from his mothers she had to constantly guided him back to drinking milk when he stopped sucking.
In grasslands of Namibia the baby was pretty much tied up all the time so she wouldn't wonder away, she was treated like a dog almost. She had a rope lease and also his feet were tied up on the bed alone. She was abused by her older brother but there was no real disciplined showed. She kind of followed what was given to her as she went alone living alone explore on her own. The parents were not really around her most of the time, but she still managed to grow up.
In Tokyo The baby was raised like a robot, sitting in its carriage and all the mothers that came together treated their children in the same way, they were no difference in the babies identities, like it was a factory. The baby was brought to a school where he was following along to what the parents were doing and the mother controlling the babies actions by moving the hands by her self. She was raised with many toys and even though she was curious she had a lot of constant care from her parents.
California the baby was pretty much left alone with the cat, she was trapped in a stroller and was restrained by it. The baby in the beginning had many wires put on him and it looked like an experiment in my eyes.
Each parent treated their child's in many way either leaving them at home or keeping constant supervision on them. There is no way showed that the children at the age on one should be treated since either way they will follow the same path. there are many good points and bad points about the way the babies were raised so it is hard to tell which baby was raised better and how.
3. What looked universal - common to all humans - from the film - at least as edited? Why is this universality significant?
All the humans in the film had a universal roll to nurture and to love the baby, they had to watch him/her grow and as time go on let them explore without restricting them too much. In each of the area's the babies had some freedom to explore but still had to follow rules their parents and siblings set up. This is significant since all the people believe that they should lead their children on the right path and have it grow to be a model member of their society.
4. Your own question.
I still wonder why the babies were treated so good in the movie since there was no real disciple in the movie just a bunch of restrictions the baby can do. They didn't show and abuse it was like all the babies were perfect in this world and that they don't need abuse till they reach a certain age.
I wonder how the babies will turn out in the future since even though the babies took the same path toward standing and being a member of their society they will walk different roads and come out differently. even though they all look like they will walk the same path it is unlikely that the babies will do so.
No culture in this film showed that there is a better way of parenting than the other, since even though all the kids grew up differently they all still followed the same basic steps. Even though the children from Mongolia was raised in the wild unlike the child in Japan who was raised in a urban environment. All the children were brought into this world by their cultures rituals like hospitals or natural birth. The babies are than raised like a good child all innocent in the culture and is feed and nurtured by the parents culture and the surrounding people. The babies were interacting with society and as they grew up they experienced different things, some were formula feed and some were breast feed. Buy at the end the babies grew up to be one with their culture and society and learned how to stand and walk toward the same future.
2. How did each family prepare the child to take its "place" in their society? Did communication, cuddling, supervision, discipline line up to "mold" the kid for that society? Or do you think that a kid from one society would have been able to transfer successfully/easily at age 1 to one of the others?
Each family raised their child different, in Mongolia the children were raised with their siblings the most and was feed bathed by their mothers only, in the entire movie i didn't see a single adult male, and it was questionable of how modernized they were since they had tools from the modern world but still lived in the style as hunter gathers. the new babies often follow how their siblings behave but they also had to be guided by their parents. For example when the baby was drinking water he followed what his siblings did but when he was drinking milk from his mothers she had to constantly guided him back to drinking milk when he stopped sucking.
In grasslands of Namibia the baby was pretty much tied up all the time so she wouldn't wonder away, she was treated like a dog almost. She had a rope lease and also his feet were tied up on the bed alone. She was abused by her older brother but there was no real disciplined showed. She kind of followed what was given to her as she went alone living alone explore on her own. The parents were not really around her most of the time, but she still managed to grow up.
In Tokyo The baby was raised like a robot, sitting in its carriage and all the mothers that came together treated their children in the same way, they were no difference in the babies identities, like it was a factory. The baby was brought to a school where he was following along to what the parents were doing and the mother controlling the babies actions by moving the hands by her self. She was raised with many toys and even though she was curious she had a lot of constant care from her parents.
California the baby was pretty much left alone with the cat, she was trapped in a stroller and was restrained by it. The baby in the beginning had many wires put on him and it looked like an experiment in my eyes.
Each parent treated their child's in many way either leaving them at home or keeping constant supervision on them. There is no way showed that the children at the age on one should be treated since either way they will follow the same path. there are many good points and bad points about the way the babies were raised so it is hard to tell which baby was raised better and how.
3. What looked universal - common to all humans - from the film - at least as edited? Why is this universality significant?
All the humans in the film had a universal roll to nurture and to love the baby, they had to watch him/her grow and as time go on let them explore without restricting them too much. In each of the area's the babies had some freedom to explore but still had to follow rules their parents and siblings set up. This is significant since all the people believe that they should lead their children on the right path and have it grow to be a model member of their society.
4. Your own question.
I still wonder why the babies were treated so good in the movie since there was no real disciple in the movie just a bunch of restrictions the baby can do. They didn't show and abuse it was like all the babies were perfect in this world and that they don't need abuse till they reach a certain age.
I wonder how the babies will turn out in the future since even though the babies took the same path toward standing and being a member of their society they will walk different roads and come out differently. even though they all look like they will walk the same path it is unlikely that the babies will do so.
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
HomeWork57: (edited)
Part 1: Your initial thoughts
* How should kids be parented?
I feel like i can't really give a correct answer to this question since my answers are probably based on how i was raised as a child. But looking at those thoughts i feel that a child should have room to explore on their own since they are their own individuals, and i shouldn't really control their lives of what to like and dislike. I think children should be introduced to many different things when they are still developing and on a equal amount so they would not favor one over another because they were influenced more by it.
Children should spend equal time with their children and not spoil the child so that he/she always get what they want. I feel like there should be a balance to how much love the parents give the child and how much restrictions a kid should have. They shouldn't have too much but they should have to little, i think being in the middle of the togetherness and the individuality pulls is the best thing for a child to have.
* What should be the social arrangements? An extended family, nuclear family, a village, corporate day care?
Kids should first get to acknowledge their parents first before and other social interactions since they are the ones they are closest to in this world and will spend most of their early life with. I disagree with and kind of day care because it roots the child's brain and influenced them to other in a early age, and will train them to be corporate robots. Children should be influenced little by their relatives and as they grow older they should start and expand their horizon and seek new friendships and bonds but not get to attached to them.
* What should be the guiding principles? Love? Obedience? Loving obedience? Humor? Empowerment? Subordination? Time outs? Separate cribs or co-sleeping? Breast feeding or bottle? Child-centered or parent-centered? etc.
I don't think their should be one guiding principle since in this world kids need to experience more than on main thing, they need to explore on their own and with others, they need to be taught and have room to self learn.
Stuff like timeouts are just a waste since their superiority don't last long, and beating a child hurts their bodies mentally in the long run. I think that
* What were the best parts of how you were parented (since the worst parts don't really belong in a public class blog)?
I don't really know the best parts of how i was parenting since i don't want to judge how my parents did it since i would start having doubts about how i was raised.
But if i had to pick one i would say that my parents didn't believe in that many punishments like physical or mental (like time outs)
* How do you think you'd parent if you're put in that position?
I think i would treat my child in the same way since i don't think that timeouts or physical punishments would do the child any good, i believe that there are better ways like telling the child and restricting them (not grounding) in some ways are the way to raise a kid.
* Do you think babies should be treated more like adults or like puppies?
I think babies shouldn't be treated in the middle between an a adult and a puppies since they are still humans but don't function and think like a corporate puppet like an adult.
* Do you think parenting will "come naturally" or do you think you'll have to research multiple perspectives and come up with a (possibly evolving) model in collaboration with other family members? Did your family read books about how to parent you or do informal research such as talking to other family members?
I believe that parenting doesn't come naturally since in this society we learn our parenting skills from our parents and would treat our kids like how we are treated and we would just exclude what we thought was good or bad. I don't think getting advice from books is a really good idea since those are corporate ways to raise a kid but ways to raise a kid should be from family and friends and not people you don't know.
* How should kids be parented?
I feel like i can't really give a correct answer to this question since my answers are probably based on how i was raised as a child. But looking at those thoughts i feel that a child should have room to explore on their own since they are their own individuals, and i shouldn't really control their lives of what to like and dislike. I think children should be introduced to many different things when they are still developing and on a equal amount so they would not favor one over another because they were influenced more by it.
Children should spend equal time with their children and not spoil the child so that he/she always get what they want. I feel like there should be a balance to how much love the parents give the child and how much restrictions a kid should have. They shouldn't have too much but they should have to little, i think being in the middle of the togetherness and the individuality pulls is the best thing for a child to have.
* What should be the social arrangements? An extended family, nuclear family, a village, corporate day care?
Kids should first get to acknowledge their parents first before and other social interactions since they are the ones they are closest to in this world and will spend most of their early life with. I disagree with and kind of day care because it roots the child's brain and influenced them to other in a early age, and will train them to be corporate robots. Children should be influenced little by their relatives and as they grow older they should start and expand their horizon and seek new friendships and bonds but not get to attached to them.
* What should be the guiding principles? Love? Obedience? Loving obedience? Humor? Empowerment? Subordination? Time outs? Separate cribs or co-sleeping? Breast feeding or bottle? Child-centered or parent-centered? etc.
I don't think their should be one guiding principle since in this world kids need to experience more than on main thing, they need to explore on their own and with others, they need to be taught and have room to self learn.
Stuff like timeouts are just a waste since their superiority don't last long, and beating a child hurts their bodies mentally in the long run. I think that
* What were the best parts of how you were parented (since the worst parts don't really belong in a public class blog)?
I don't really know the best parts of how i was parenting since i don't want to judge how my parents did it since i would start having doubts about how i was raised.
But if i had to pick one i would say that my parents didn't believe in that many punishments like physical or mental (like time outs)
* How do you think you'd parent if you're put in that position?
I think i would treat my child in the same way since i don't think that timeouts or physical punishments would do the child any good, i believe that there are better ways like telling the child and restricting them (not grounding) in some ways are the way to raise a kid.
* Do you think babies should be treated more like adults or like puppies?
I think babies shouldn't be treated in the middle between an a adult and a puppies since they are still humans but don't function and think like a corporate puppet like an adult.
* Do you think parenting will "come naturally" or do you think you'll have to research multiple perspectives and come up with a (possibly evolving) model in collaboration with other family members? Did your family read books about how to parent you or do informal research such as talking to other family members?
I believe that parenting doesn't come naturally since in this society we learn our parenting skills from our parents and would treat our kids like how we are treated and we would just exclude what we thought was good or bad. I don't think getting advice from books is a really good idea since those are corporate ways to raise a kid but ways to raise a kid should be from family and friends and not people you don't know.
Monday, May 17, 2010
HomeWork56:
Informal Research Continued -
Interview Questions: If there is a (1-5 next to the question 5=Yes Very often 1=Not very Often)
1. What is your definition of gossip?
2. When every your acquaintances(friends+daily interactions) talk about someone else do you become self conscious about it(whatever they were talking about) toward yourself?(1-5)
3. Do you make negative comments about others around you to your acquaintances? (1-5)
4. Have you ever felt a change in your personality around your acquaintances? (how?)
Interviews:
(to be continued)
Analysis:
(to be continued)
Survey Question:
*When every your acquaintances(friends+daily interactions) talk about someone else do you become self conscious about it(whatever they were talking about) toward yourself?(1-5)
Interview Questions: If there is a (1-5 next to the question 5=Yes Very often 1=Not very Often)
1. What is your definition of gossip?
2. When every your acquaintances(friends+daily interactions) talk about someone else do you become self conscious about it(whatever they were talking about) toward yourself?(1-5)
3. Do you make negative comments about others around you to your acquaintances? (1-5)
4. Have you ever felt a change in your personality around your acquaintances? (how?)
Interviews:
(to be continued)
Analysis:
(to be continued)
Survey Question:
*When every your acquaintances(friends+daily interactions) talk about someone else do you become self conscious about it(whatever they were talking about) toward yourself?(1-5)
HomeWork55:
Orignal Question: How do friends and acquaintances affect ones self happiness?
(OR) How do friends and acquaintances stimulate self depression?
-fixed in class- (Andy Snyder's suggestion) to write your questions over and over again in different ways till you get a exhibition type question. (pick a specif topic that has a probability to had studies done.)
New independent Research Topic: Does gossip create or caused by acquaintances create self depression?
Research:
Smith, Melinda, Joanna Saisan, Robert Segal, and Jeanne Segal. "Understanding Depression." HelpGuide.org (2009): n. pag. Web. 17 May 2010..
This Website is a help page consist of basic knowledge to know about depression. It talks about the symptoms (that are commonly known)
If you identify with several of the following signs and symptoms, and they just won’t go away, you may be suffering from clinical depression.
* you can’t sleep or you sleep too much
* you can’t concentrate or find that previously easy tasks are now difficult
* you feel hopeless and helpless
* you can’t control your negative thoughts, no matter how much you try
* you have lost your appetite or you can’t stop eating
* you are much more irritable and short-tempered than usual
* you have thoughts that life is not worth living (Seek help immediately if this is the case)
(OR) How do friends and acquaintances stimulate self depression?
-fixed in class- (Andy Snyder's suggestion) to write your questions over and over again in different ways till you get a exhibition type question. (pick a specif topic that has a probability to had studies done.)
New independent Research Topic: Does gossip create or caused by acquaintances create self depression?
Research:
Smith, Melinda, Joanna Saisan, Robert Segal, and Jeanne Segal. "Understanding Depression." HelpGuide.org (2009): n. pag. Web. 17 May 2010.
This Website is a help page consist of basic knowledge to know about depression. It talks about the symptoms (that are commonly known)
If you identify with several of the following signs and symptoms, and they just won’t go away, you may be suffering from clinical depression.
* you can’t sleep or you sleep too much
* you can’t concentrate or find that previously easy tasks are now difficult
* you feel hopeless and helpless
* you can’t control your negative thoughts, no matter how much you try
* you have lost your appetite or you can’t stop eating
* you are much more irritable and short-tempered than usual
* you have thoughts that life is not worth living (Seek help immediately if this is the case)
Thursday, May 13, 2010
HomeWork54: (EDITED)
| INTP - "Architect". Greatest precision in thought and language. Can readily discern contradictions and inconsistencies. The world exists primarily to be understood. 3.3% of total population. |
Link of what a INTP is like
I though this test was a very vague interpretation of me, since it doesn't cover all of my personalities, it only shows the outer layer that most people see. But there are many points that make my personality unique and similar to others. By classifying me into four categories it is better than using one or two since there are more possibilities to place people in to tell how other are similar or not and where the line stops between personalities.
Big5 Test results
I'm a O53-C35-E12-A8-N3 Big Five!!
Even though this is a different test than what andy had on his blog i still think that this shows a different side of my personality than the first personality test. Instead of labeling us into categories it shows percentages to how much of each category we are, so we have a more basic understanding about ourselves.
But the way they placed it shows that i am low on the score since in the other test it also shows that my personality only related to about 3.3% of the population.
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C.N.
Guess:
REAL: ESTJ:
organized, group oriented, focused, conventional, leader, emotionally stable, anal, attention seeking, planner, realistic, fearless, responsible, finisher, decisive, norm following, respects authority, punctual, hard working, stiff, self confident, thinks rules and regulations are important, follows the rules, clean, outgoing, social, content, does not like being alone, normal, regular, does not like weird or strange people / things - intolerant of differences, strict, disciplined, aggressive, assertive, content, happy, proper, formal, strict with self, meticulous, strong sense of purpose
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